What we are now discussing, like TV programmes, films, games etc., I think there are many parts which involve in them. These parts are different characters and play different roles. Let me try to illustrate them:
Matter Creator Assistant Preventer Receiver
-------- ----------- ------------- ------------ ------------
Games Producer Retailers Parents Children
Films Producer Cinemas... Parents Children
TVProg Producer ???.......... Parents Children
From the above, we can see all the matters are created by producers, they are the ones who run their businesses. The retailers, cinemas... are assistants to the businesses.
Let us first look at an example.
If someone walks out of his house and gets robbed, will it be unfair to say:'You must know when you go out of your house, everywhere is dangerous on streets. It is your full responsibility to protect your money. If you want to be safe, stay in your house'? While it is our responsibilty to protect money, we are not the crime creators. If the robbers did not rob, we would not need to pay so much extra attention and energy to protect. Of course, it is really impossible that all robbers disappear in the world, but we only are preventers, we should not be blamed that we are careless, in fact we should be sympathized. In addition, although we should take care of our money, the methods of robbing and weapons used are getting newer and newer, it is hard for us to protect all the time. It is still very important to catch robbers and punish them. We should not get punishment just because we are careless.
Perhaps the above example does not perfectly match, but roughly it is the same situation that parents only are preventers. I think it is unfair just to say it is their fault for not preventing all those. And as we have seen above, there are just too many things for parents to prevent, new things come every moment, parents very easily and carelessly ignore them. No one is perfect, we can not expect parents so too. And parents also have many things to do, to care of, besides children.
I am not saying that parents have no responsibility. Even so, the rate of responsibilty is very low, comparing to creators, who should have the highest rate, and assistants, who should have a second highest rate. To improve this situation, should we try to ask the creators to stop 'attacking', catch them, punish them or ask the parents to 'defend' harder? When new ways of 'attack' appear, should we let them so and just blame the parents not noticing them and learn new ways to 'defend'?
There are many ways to teach children. Some parents restrict what their kids do. Some just let the kids do whatever they want, and let them learn from mistakes. Some parents do other ways. Every way has its own advantages and drawbacks, it is not a matter of right or wrong.
Edited by MaLing, 20 May 2005 - 07:30 AM.